Sex Magick:
Exploring the Boundaries of Intimacy

  Core Stuff  

Q. What is it about?
A. This workshop is about intimacy and sex. It might be more about one than the other. It depends on how you participate. It's about your willingness to open up to another person, to trust, to have faith and explore deeper dimensions of yourself and allow others to witness your more authentic self.


Q. Is it like Body Electric™?
A. There are some similarities. We have guided group exercises that may involve touch and expanding your physical comfort zone. On the other hand, we rely on and encourage the specific group dynamic to help shape the container. It's less instructional and more crafted by our common energy.

Q. How does it work?
A. Through an intensive and concentrated series of processes, we begin to form a container where our authentic selves will emerge. We see it in others and others see it in us. We move together within the container to new levels of intimacy. We explore these new levels of physical and emotional intimacy together.


Q. What will we do?
A. Every day will have time allocated to sitting in circle and working with the other participants to create a "sacred space" and move towards creating common rituals within that space. There will be free time for shared cooking and cleaning, hikes, swimming, sunning, reading and maybe a little excursion or two.  The focus of the workshop is on the Heart Circle, where we will reveal ourselves to one another.


Q. What is "ritual space?"
A. A little hard to explain, but it's the time when the circle achieves a level of comfort and trust with each other to begin the deeper exploration of intimacy. Wonderful things happen in ritual space.


Q. Is there sex?
A. Yes, no and maybe. We try to create a magical container where sex is one element of the energy exchanged. It may be more sensual than sexual or it may be very hot. It depends on the group. The potential is there.


Q. What if I don't want to have sex or change my mind?
A. We agree to respect individual boundaries. We do ask you to commit to the process and no one is coerced or forced to do anything they don't want to do.


Q. Do I have to stay the whole time?
A. Yes. We ask participants to commit to the entire time. To leave early or come late disrupts the communal energy and flow not to mention short changes you of the full experience.

Q.  Will there be anybody there who is not a faggot identified cisgender (i.e. has a cock) man?
A.  All of our workshops are open to faggot identified men which includes transmen.  We don't ask participants what their gender identity is other than whether they identify as gay or faggot men. 

  Logistics Stuff  

Q. When is it?
A. The workshop usually run Saturday to Saturday.  The schedule for 2017 workshops is below:

  • April 22 - 29  Asheville, North Carolina
  • July 1 - 8   Wolf Creek, Oregon
  • July 15 - 22  Folleterre Faerie Sanctuary, Eastern France (269)
  • September 15 - 22 - Dos Rios, Northern California

Q. Where is it?
A. The 4 workshops will be held in 4 different locations in 2 countries and 3 states.  Below is a description of the different venues.

Our newest venue is about 45 minutes outside Asheville on private land with a large main house, a separate studio and a few outbuildings.  There is room to sleep inside or tent outside.  There are 150 acres of lush forested land with plenty of room to stretch our out arms and breathe.   A recent fire did burn some of the property, but the house and surrounding areas were preserved.  Our hosts, two Asheville Faeries, are accustomed to groups like ours and work hard to maintain the beauty and warmth of this gorgeous facility.

Dos Rios is private land owned by Dance Mission Theater.  This land has a rich history of Faeries living and working on it (as well as owning it).  This is our third workshop at Dos Rios and we are excited to be able to take advantage of the spectactular location and amenities.   A popular feature here is the Eel river, a short hike from the property where we swim and folic in the California sun.


Faerie Camp Destiny is located in Southern Vermont and has become a vibrant and successful Sanctuary on the East Coast.  There are a few indoor spaces for sleeping and most of us will camp.  Plan on tent camping and enjoying the gorgeous mountainous setting.  There is a fantastic kitchen and indoor and outdoor bathhouse for nice hot showers.    The land is fecund with the fruits of the large gardens as well as the endless supply of blackberries. 


Folleterre is now a long established Faerie Sanctuary in eastern France.  About 3 hours by train from Paris, this gorgeous sanctuary is private and surrounded by forrest.  There is a main house and barn where many people can find a place to sleep indoors.  There are plenty of places to camp.  It's definitely a place that embraces and demonstrates core Faerie values like: low impact on the land, minimal consumption of carbon based fuels, local vegetarian food, and lots of heart circles.  Run by a dedicated core group of stewards and supported by a broad community of Faeries throughout Europe.

Pfaffenseifen is a new Faerie owned and operated retreat center in Germany between Cologne and Frankfurt.  This is a bed and breakfast and will represent a comfortable ugprade for those who have attended workshops at some of the more rustic locations.  Indoor beds, running water, real flush toilets and the list goes on and on! We hope to return to this venue in the coming years!

Wolf Creek is a familiar destination carrying a mountain of Faerie history with it.  Harry Hay started the workshop at Wolf Creek following through on his vision to bring it here even before the Faeries became stewards of the land.  Many workshops have occured at Wolf Creek in the last 3 decades.  There are 80 gorgeous acres to tent camp in.  We will be meeting in the historic barn or outside as weather permits.  There are some indoor spaces for those people with special needs.   Recent improvements to the barn and the showers make Wolf Creek all the more welcoming and comfortable.


Q. How much will it cost?
A. The cost for the seven days is $550-850 USD, $650-1,000 CAD for US workshops and includes food and tent camping.  The cost for the workshop in France is €250-800.  Indoor accommodations are planned for everyone, but tent camping is also available as of this writing.  No matter where you are you'll be in a room full of emotionally present men. Our long standing Faerie policy: No One Will Be Turned Away for Lack of Funds (NOTAFLOF) applies to all of our workshops.


Q. What are the accommodations?
A. Dos Rios is private land about 3.5 hours drive north of San Francisco.  It is close to the Eel river and provides plenty of seclusion, beauty and privacy. Most people will be in their own tents. If you have a camper, you can park that in the parking lot. There may be some limited indoor spaces available. The land is not wheelchair friendly.

Wolf Creek is on 80 acres 4 hours south of Portland and 1 hour from Medford in Southern Oregon.  There are some beds available and most people will be tent camping.  There are plenty of flat places to camp, though we typically camp in Pattyfille.  There are 2 flush toilets and numerous shitters around the property.  Solar heated showers are hottest at mid-day. 

Folleterre is primarily about camping during the summer, and there are about a dozen beds in the main house with extra bedding. 

Asheville consists of a family house with plenty of sleeping spaces, though you should plan on tent camping if privacy or snoring (giving or receiving) is an issue.  Will have more information about this venue soon.  Weather will likely be moderate but rain is very likely.


Q. What's the food like?
A. We generally eat what the group wants to eat. We buy good quality organic food and prepare delicious vegetarian meals. We work together to prepare the meals, so if you want something special, help put it together. If you have special dietary needs, please include those in the comments in the registration form.  Food promises to be healthy and plentiful!


Q. What will the weather be like?
A. Dos Rios will likely be sunny with temps comfortably in the 20s/70s during the day and cooler at night.  It is somewhat possible to have rain at this time of year, so plan to bring tarps and/or raingear.

The early summer at Folleterre will likely be warm and wet.  A mix of partly sunny days and generous rainstorms will prevail  Nights will likely be fairly warm as well, so plan on bringing your comfy, frilly best.

Wolf Creek will very likely be hot and dry with daytime temps in the 30s/90s and night time temps in the 60s or about 18-22 celsius.  It's best to bring lots of light wear or nothing for the day and layers for the evening.  It's poosible it might rain, though it may very well not at all.  There is a cool creek to dip in and get refreshed. 

Faerie Camp Destiny will likey be very warm and there is a chance it may rain.  There is a lot of shaded ground, so we will be comfortable during the heat of the day.  The temperatures will drop at night, but not as much as other places.  Plan on loose wear most of the time. 


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